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Involving other siblings

If you already have other children (especially just one) you may well be worried about their reaction to a new baby.  Stay positive and include them in as many of the pre-baby preparations as possible.  Below are a few ideas to help smooth the way.

Tell siblings, however young, that you are having another baby when you tell the rest of your friends and family so they don’t overhear conversations and worry.

Always refer to the new baby as ‘our baby’ or even ‘your baby’.

There are many good children’s books about new babies, which you can read to your children.

Take siblings to the hospital with you on one of your scan appointments so they can imagine where you are when you go to have your baby. 

Once your baby starts kicking encourage siblings to feel for kicks.  Let them talk to and cuddle your bump.

Make a ‘Baby scrap book’ all about your first child.  Include a photo of you pregnant with them; a scan picture, interesting details of your pregnancy like special cravings, their newborn photo and birth size and weight.  You can go on to include details and photos of all their big baby moments – first food, first step, bathing etc.  Leave the last page blank to hold a photo of your new baby.

Ask friends with very young babies to visit so siblings can see what tiny babies are like and won’t imagine an instant playmate is due.

When you get old baby clothes out of storage for the new arrival, take some time to look at them with siblings and share your memories.

Increase the amount of time your partner spends with the children well before the birth. 

Make any big changes like moving beds, starting nursery/school, potty training at least 2 months before your new baby is due.